Take care of YOU.
We are currently on a 3 week journey towards self love. Last week we established that in order to love ourselves well we must know ourselves. It is important to understand what we are feeling and how it is affecting us in order to take steps towards helping ourselves out. Read the post here.
We love much more intentionally, efficiently and fiercely when we learn to correctly love ourselves first.
“Sometimes self care is exercise and eating right. Sometimes it’s spending time with loved ones or taking a nap. And sometimes it’s watching an entire season of television in one weekend while you lounge around in your pajamas. Whatever soothes your soul.” -Nanae Hoffman
How often do we wake up and ask ourselves “What can I do to take care of myself today?”
I realized that I RARELY wake up with that question in mind. I have however woken up and my first thought be “How can I take care of/help or facilitate __________’s life today?”
Every so often I forget my humanness and try to play “Superhero”. I’m sure you know the game, the one where you try to rescue everyone and handle all of their life’s situations, your current responsibilities and the situations in your life as well.
It’s so easy to put our own needs aside sometimes. It’s so easy to try to take care of everyone else while completely neglecting ourselves in the process. I have known this from first hand experiences. Trying to save the day and taking on billions of tasks to take some weight off of people has often led me to overwork and tire myself out.
I love helping people (and that is a lovely quality of mine) but sometimes I get so passionate about what I’m doing for somebody else that I completely forget to properly care for myself in the process. This looks like being so caught up in getting whatever I’m doing done that I go through the whole day and realize that I forgot to eat (I can’t tell you guys how much this has happened to me) or going a couple of days without sleeping for taking on a project.
Can you relate?
We must learn how to take care of ourselves first in order to properly serve and take care of the rest of the world.
“Remember that taking care of yourself enables you to be a better provider to those around you. We are easily stretched too thin when it comes to the demands of life and loved ones but in order to be able to help anyone to the best of your ability, you must help yourself first, without feeling guilty.” -Treasured Sentiments
Part of loving yourself well is knowing how to properly care for yourself. You can only know how to properly love thyself after you get to know yourself. Once you know yourself well enough you are able to start caring for YOU better.
This may sound silly or pretty obvious but this starts with you filling (and not forgetting about) your basic needs. Simple things like having meals at the proper times or staying hydrated or going to bed early can really go a long way.
Not only are we to fill our basic needs but our emotional, spiritual, and social needs as well.
This looks like being aware of your heart (your feelings, emotions, highs, and lows), taking care of your spiritual life and being in community with people.
1. Your heart is SO important. Everything you do flows from it (Proverbs 4:23). It is so important to listen to what it’s telling you. Like I said in my last post, so often we go around not knowing ourselves properly, not knowing how we feel or what our hearts are saying. We are disconnected and that causes us to love ourselves poorly. We must know our hearts (and intentionally take care of it) in order to love ourselves well. Your feelings and emotions often lead you to address the things in your life that need to be reevaluated, restructured or worked on.
2. Nurturing your spirit is also a big part of taking care of yourself. Keeping yourself connected with God is a must. The journey towards self love really begins in finding yourself in HIM. It begins with looking at yourself through the mirror of His eyes. This may look like praying throughout your day or reading the bible, fasting or worshiping. Whatever it looks like for you, make sure you’re taking care of your spirit and relationship.
3. We are designed to be amongst people. It is in our DNA to be closely loved and known. This is why community is so important. Taking care of our social needs is a must. This means different things for different people. To some it may mean spending time with your family while to others it can be a girls/guys night. Whatever works the best for you, do that.
Loving yourself looks like knowing your heart, feeding your spirit and embracing community.
It is important to recognize what we need at the moment and then love ourselves enough to fill those basic needs.
We need to BREAK the LIE that says that focusing on ourselves is selfish.
Sometimes you need some time apart, that is okay. Sometimes you need rest, learn to give yourself that. Other times you may need to try something new, gift yourself with the experience.
Sometimes your heart is speaking, listen. Sometimes your spirit is weary, turn to Jesus. Other times you may crave to be in community, plan friend dates or family dinners.
Take care of yourself, you are worth it.
I DARE YOU TO TRY
As I mentioned in my previous post we will be taking on some dares and challenges throughout this journey towards loving ourselves better. This will require YOU to take action.
Challenge: Take some time to take care of yourself throughout the week by doing these exercises.
Dare: Pick a specific day (or all of the days) and post your challenge on social media with the hashtag #LovingThyselfOGR
Also, please don’t be hesitant to share your experiences, any testimonies, or simply just comments. I ALWAYS love to hear from you all❤️
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Compliment yourself today (Take a Selfie listing 3 good things/qualities about yourself)
Wake up early and prepare breakfast before heading out
Write a letter to your heart.
Make a To Do list for the day, make sure to schedule at least 10 minutes for yourself. (Make yourself laugh, Have your favorite drink, Take a bubble bath. Whatever works for you)
Take time out today to do something you love.
Dare: Post a short video on social media with the hashtag #LovingThyselfOGR