We are currently on the LAST week of our 3 week journey towards self love. During the last 2 weeks we have established that in order to love ourselves well we must get to know ourselves, be aware of our needs and take care of them. Read the past posts here and here.
We love much more intentionally,efficiently and fiercely when we learn to correctly love ourselves first.
“Be alone. Eat alone, take yourself out on dates,sleep alone. In the midst of this you will learn about yourself. You will grow, you will figure out what inspires you, you will curate your own dreams, your own beliefs, your own stunning clarity, and when you meet the person who makes your cells dance, you will be sure of it, because you are sure of yourself.” -Unknown
I have always been the type of person to like being alone. I don’t at all mind sitting on my own and just simply enjoying a moment to myself. By a “moment” I mean I can just sit there on my own for 3 hours.
I realize that this can be quite hard for some people (it’s even hard for myself,who actually enjoys being alone, sometimes). Being by yourself forces you to tap into places in your heart and mind that you might be too distracted to tap into on any regular time during the busy day. This is why I believe that Dating yourself is so important in your journey towards self love. Spending time with yourself allows you to know and love yourself better.
Take yourself out. Dress up. Get excited.
You have to learn to love and enjoy your own company. You have to learn to treat yourself and cultivate your happiness.
Dating yourself is simply taking time out to reassure/encourage yourself and uplift your spirit. It’s times of apartness with yourself, times you set to prioritize YOU and do what makes you happy.
We live in a busy world, one where we always have something to do,somewhere to be. Our “To do lists” grow bigger and bigger each day, leaving us very little time to enjoy on our own. We have to learn how to make time to make ourselves feel loved, by ourselves.
Fall in love with yourself.
Make yourself feel special.
What would you say to yourself if you were dating You? What kind of dates would you plan if you were your significant other? How would you want a boyfriend/girlfriend to treat/address you?Write a list of these things
And then put them into action.
Tell yourself the things you’d expect your significant other to tell you, plan the little dates you’d like someone to plan, treat yourself how you want to be treated.
The problem is that we have all of these expectations of our future (or current) mates but we don’t hold ourselves to the same standards.
“You deserve to give yourself the same love that you expect to be given.”
So Pick a date
& love on yourself!
Find ways to date yourself that work for you, whether it’s taking a nap,taking yourself out to dinner or strolling around a park admiring the view.
Start Dating Yourself!
I DARE YOU TO TRY
In the previous weeks we have been taking on Dares and Challenges through this journey towards loving ourselves better. This requires YOU to take action.
Challenge: Take some time during the week to do these exercises
Dare: Post your challenge on social media with the hashtag #LoveThyselfOGR
Write yourself a LOVE letter.
|Do something relaxing today. (Ex: Take a bubble bath, go for a walk, get a manicure, eat a whole tub of ice cream while watching a movie)|
|Get yourself a small gift. (Ex: Chocolates, a flower, a necklace)|
Plan your next “Me Date”. Pick a date/location, put it in your calendar and STICK TO IT.
-Take yourself out to the movies.
-Go to your favorite restaurant, order your favorite food
-Grooming Day (Do your hair, get a mani/pedi)
-Relax with a bubble bath & a book
-Have a lazy day (watch movies, sleep all day)
-Visit a museum
-Tour your city
-Pack lunch and have a picnic at the park
-Take a walk around your neighborhood
P.S As some of you know (the ones that follow me on social media) I have also been taking these challenges and dares along with you guys. Here is a small video with some of my most recent little dates and times apart. ENJOY